I've noticed there are alot of types of marraiges that exist that work and the ones that don't work are all fairly similar. usually people just can't get along. not all successful couples are the "totally in love" type. to me, most successful relationships work because the people are willing to put the work into it.
sometimes i wonder, is there really a love match for everyone? or maybe, there was and one of those people made a decision that altered their course to love. i think about the things i've been through and how that differs from my original plan. it's pretty much completely different.
i don't know where mine is headed. but it's definitely not working where it is now. as it is, we get an hour a day together. so finally, when we get some time together it always seems to turn into a arguement. usually about stupid shit. we even argue about how we argue. alot of it is defensive. some of it is blaming and 99% of the time, nothing ever gets resolved. that's the worst part. we say, you always do this, or you always do that. yet we both argue the same way.
it seems like anger are our only emotions towards eachother. sometimes it's the little things, other times it's much more important. either way, no resolution. to play the blame game for a second, the arguments usually happen when he's in a bad mood. he always takes it out on me. and when i tell him he is wrong for doing that, i get "well, you know i'm in a bad mood so why are you trying to talk to me about stuff". but there's hardly ever a good time.
we rarely say i love you to eachother but he's not that type of guy. however, somehow i'm supposed to know that he loves me and that everything is ok. but i'm the type that needs to hear it.
i know, we both need counseling. individually and as a couple. i'm not sure he'll admit he needs it too. we just need better communication skills.
